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THE GRIEVING PROCESS

The grieving process …

Which i hope none of u will live it ,

• Denial and isolation

Denial is a healthy response to a highly stressful situation; it acts as a temporary buffer to protect the individual from the shock of what is to be faced. Isolation is a way of pulling away from others to avoid dealing with the loss

• Anger

Includes feelings of rage, envy, and resentment.

Anger asks, “why me?” Sometimes anger is expressed indirectly as complaints about health-care professionals, or feeling abandoned by God.

• Bargaining

Most bargains are made with God or a higher being, as a way to get a second chance. A way of fantasizing that the loss didn’t happen

• Depression

The feelings of loss become overwhelming.

Depression has been defined as an emotional state that involves sadness, gloominess and pessimisms regarding the future. Depression often includes feelings of guilt and personal worthlessness

• Acceptance

Acceptance is not necessarily a happy stage or response. Often it is a time when the individual can now talk about the loss and begin to see a future.

Healing process ?

Grieving is a roller coaster of emotions, you may feel crazy, but you are not. Grieving is natural, normal and an important part of recovery. Grieving has no order or time limit.

Grieving doesn’t necessarily end; it evolves from intensity, to a longing to a memory. It is most important to attend to the responses of grieving.

Grief work is exhausting. Take time to nurture yourself, take things slow.

When you feel good enjoy it,

When u feels sad, attend to it.

Reach out for support, let family and friends know what you need.

Learn to accept that your loss is real. For many people who are grieving a loss, the first impulse is to deny the loss. Grieving denial can range from downplaying the loss, as if it’s not important, to having the delusion that the person is still alive.

It’s often easier for people who are grieving to have an intellectual understanding of the death than an emotional understanding (the loved one is not coming back). So the first task for the grieving person is accepting that the loved one is really gone.

Make it OK to feel the pain.
The pain of grieving can be both emotional and physical, and unfortunately there’s no way to avoid it. Denying the pain of grieving can lead to physical symptoms and can also prolong the grieving process.

Some people try to avoid grieving pain by being busy or traveling; others try to minimize grieving their loss by idealizing the loved one or refusing to allow negative thoughts about the loved one enter their minds. Some grieving people use drugs or alcohol to deaden the pain.

Feeling the pain of grieving is difficult, but it’s an important step toward healing.

Adjust to living without the deceased.
When a loved one dies, we also lose the part of our lifestyle that included the deceased. So while we are grieving for the loved one, we are also grieving for the parts of our life that will never be the same. Sometimes it can take a few months following the death for this realization to sink in.

Find a safe place in your heart for your loved one, and allow yourself to move on.
This task can be especially hard for a grieving person because it can feel at first that you’re being disloyal when you start to think about enjoying a life that doesn’t include the deceased.

It’s likely that memories of the loved one will stay with you throughout your life, and sometimes, even years after the death, you may feel a stab of pain when you think about the beloved person that was so important to you.

When this happens, it’s important to remind yourself that it’s a normal part of the grieving and healing process. Allow yourself to have these feelings.

Learning to cherish a memory without letting it control you is a very important step in the grieving process. By finding a special safe “place” for that person, you can heal from grieving and move back into your life. You begin to find joy in new experiences, and you can take comfort in the knowledge that you keep your cherished memories with you, wherever you go.

Do not feel ashamed of your sadness and grief by trying to contain or hide it. Tears are meant to cleanse and relieve. Cry out your pain. Pray out your grief. Peace will come.

Often the best way to overcome our own sadness and grief is to help someone else feel better. What we give out into the world comes back ten-fold. That includes the love and help we extend to another.

What do you do with the love that you feel?

For many people, the hardest part of losing a loved one and grieving that loss is figuring out what to do with all the love they feel for the person that is gone.

Remind yourself that you don’t have to stop loving someone just because he or she is no longer with you. When a memory pops up, send a loving thought and know that you are loved in return. You may find comfort in this, and the strength to continue on in your journey.

It is better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all

Maybe Death isn’t Darkness after all. – Mary Oliver

I hope this will help someone to get through his or her sadness ..